What is the topic for today? I guess onward is what I've pretty much have to say. People I have surrounded around me are living in 1o mintues ago, instead of right now. Everyone's busy with who did what to whom whenever that no one is getting anywhere else..... but down. I mean sure gossip is nice, but it isnt great when it recks a marriage, frienship, or day. Some people die from it. Or get severly depressed. Society applaueds gossip. The ladies from Despreate Housewives, Friends, and Sex and the City all gossip bout sex, lies, and betrayle. Where is the truth? Or maybe that is what is the biggest lye.... to gossip about your enemies and friends means that your hip, cool, and sly. Wow, and it only takes a girl 3 months in high school to realize it.... Are our young and even older generations not getting much clearer?
Why is it parents arent teaching teens the simple things of high school? Why are parents so over bareing and invested in lifes of teens? I am not saying from the experince of my parents, but of others. I realize that the teens that have mom and dad on their ass are a 50/50 split. Either their really atheltic and are especial smart, but come off as the class clown and are not takin seriously. OR their the outkasted student who gets medoaker grades and are shy and scared. But there are those who are underneth thease privliged ass holes who work their ass off to get up in the world but only get dissappointed by asshole teachers and princapals.
So is our education systems jaded? or are our parents just not teaching us how to be adults? Well, could be both. Each kid is different.....
So as my rant turns from a student who thinks students need to talk more about other things than drama to how our education and family situation sets some students turn from the okay even great student into a failure.... crazy! Well? Havent you seen 13 going on 30? watch it! Rent it!
Than when you really want to find out what teens go through, maybe go and voulenter at a high school for a day- but undercover- and get the whole idea of what it is like to be a teenager. I am so passionate about this subject-teens vonerablity....and parents lack to see it....
One last thing befor I sign off.... If your a parent of a young kid... I'd suggest getting counseling from anyone, most likely an actual therpist to figure out the best way to handle any situation a teenager may encounter. Mom and Dad should go seperatly and come back with some mutual ideas for 3 situations they agree on, and think may happen, and come up with consequense for each. Such as a teen getting a bad grade on a test ( C is passing, but is still inapporiate. Maybe no video games for a week is appropiate) and if it is more severe like comeing home intoxicated would be community service at a batter womans shelter..... Giving a teen some kind of backbone and insite to a bad future can give him/her some insite.
If the 3rd situation should be severe. Each one should range from a zone 1 emergency to a zone 3. If you come across a Zone 3 emergency there should be a common though from mom and dad about a punishment. Than calmly go to your child and ask why he/she did what they did. Than deside a descent punishment. If he/she stole something, got arrested... maybe sending him/her to a different school. Dont go from private to christian school. Sometimes that enviorment cause more cons than pros. Maybe one private school to another. Or Public to Private. Sometimes where one can get positive outcomes maybe well.
Getting to know your teen may cause great statisfaction. I strongly agree with anyone who agrees with me that a parent is not a friend. Cant work. Mom, your a rolemodel to your daughters and a rolemodel for who your son's might/can marry. So, act like it. And you also show your daughters how to treat others and how she wants to be treated. For your son,s your treating him how you want to be treated, how men treat women, and how he needs to respect a woman. Cheating, lying, and sex with multple people is not a great rolemodel. Respect, being huble, and getting a good job is a great idealistic reality.
And Dad.... your showing your daughters how to be displined, respected, and thoughtful. Dont be too harsh. Treat your sons with respect. I've seen two kinds of dad's. The one's who try to be a part of astringed offspring or the one who is involed in the offsprings every move. Even if it is lightly. So, Make the best of this. Women and mothers- your duty is obvious. Men, and fathers become the better man. yes man. Because that is what you are....
Julia
PS. I hope to get some great response on this!!!
